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Johari/Nohari observations
Feb. 13th, 2006 11:23 amI've been asked if I got what I expected, what I hoped for, anything useful out of those exercises. I've also had numerous discussions about word choices - both the grids themselves and individual selections to describe me.
The LJ comments I received when I put up the Nohari were interesting in themselves. I totally get why people would not put up Nohari (or even Johari) and why they would not put down their real (or real LJ) names when filling out Nohari. Why one would not put down one's name when filling out a Johari is a little more interesting.
In at least one case, the Nohari enterer put in a real name - but it was not her own real name! In a couple of cases, the anonymous voter told the person her name in IM or email or screened LJ entries. There are people who will leap to fill out the negative about one who would not fill out the positive, though fewer than the reverse. No, they don't do this for all of their 'friends,' just a lucky few.
There are lessons in perspectives in the Johari/Nohari dichotomy, even beyond the 'known/facade/blind spot/unknown (which ought to be 'doesn't seem to apply') range. Yes, knowing what others think of you compared with what you think of yourself has the potential to be interesting and important. There is additional value to be seen within the circles of your lives, the people whom you touch in different ways, in different facets of your existence.
Examples of this from outside the artificial constraints of the Johari/Nohari boxes abound. There are people who are surprised in a chat when I am silly, because silly is the last word they would have applied to me before that. The flip side is true as well. There are people who've been downright shocked to discover that I am not silly all of the time, that I have a serious side. "Josh is very huggy." "Josh is very unphysical." "Josh talks all the time." "Josh is quiet much of the time."
I have a good friend who thinks I am an introvert.
Of the 22 people who filled in my Johari, 2 were anonymous. 15 of them are people I have met face to face. (16 if quietann is who I think she is.) I expect to meet another next weekend and another still in May. That's a pretty high percentage, I think, for this community. Yet, while I have met many of them, the bulk of the relationships are from one or a few weekends and then email, IM, LJ, and phone. 7 or 8, I knew IRL before connecting on line, but even there, it was at a convention or a conference or two, and fleeting. Two of the folks I have known for more than 20 years and they know each other, though independently of me.
Of the 13 people who filled in my Nohari, 4 were anonymous and another one could be one of 3 Dans. Of the 9 who are not anonymous, I have met 5. So, as many raters on Nohari, of 9 as on Johari, out of 20, are folks I have not yet met. I expect to meet one of the 4 next weekend.
How many of your close IRL folks have done this? How many have told you? Any surprises?
My surprises were 'aloof' and the low numbers on a couple of what I think of as my faults.
The LJ comments I received when I put up the Nohari were interesting in themselves. I totally get why people would not put up Nohari (or even Johari) and why they would not put down their real (or real LJ) names when filling out Nohari. Why one would not put down one's name when filling out a Johari is a little more interesting.
In at least one case, the Nohari enterer put in a real name - but it was not her own real name! In a couple of cases, the anonymous voter told the person her name in IM or email or screened LJ entries. There are people who will leap to fill out the negative about one who would not fill out the positive, though fewer than the reverse. No, they don't do this for all of their 'friends,' just a lucky few.
There are lessons in perspectives in the Johari/Nohari dichotomy, even beyond the 'known/facade/blind spot/unknown (which ought to be 'doesn't seem to apply') range. Yes, knowing what others think of you compared with what you think of yourself has the potential to be interesting and important. There is additional value to be seen within the circles of your lives, the people whom you touch in different ways, in different facets of your existence.
Examples of this from outside the artificial constraints of the Johari/Nohari boxes abound. There are people who are surprised in a chat when I am silly, because silly is the last word they would have applied to me before that. The flip side is true as well. There are people who've been downright shocked to discover that I am not silly all of the time, that I have a serious side. "Josh is very huggy." "Josh is very unphysical." "Josh talks all the time." "Josh is quiet much of the time."
I have a good friend who thinks I am an introvert.
Of the 22 people who filled in my Johari, 2 were anonymous. 15 of them are people I have met face to face. (16 if quietann is who I think she is.) I expect to meet another next weekend and another still in May. That's a pretty high percentage, I think, for this community. Yet, while I have met many of them, the bulk of the relationships are from one or a few weekends and then email, IM, LJ, and phone. 7 or 8, I knew IRL before connecting on line, but even there, it was at a convention or a conference or two, and fleeting. Two of the folks I have known for more than 20 years and they know each other, though independently of me.
Of the 13 people who filled in my Nohari, 4 were anonymous and another one could be one of 3 Dans. Of the 9 who are not anonymous, I have met 5. So, as many raters on Nohari, of 9 as on Johari, out of 20, are folks I have not yet met. I expect to meet one of the 4 next weekend.
How many of your close IRL folks have done this? How many have told you? Any surprises?
My surprises were 'aloof' and the low numbers on a couple of what I think of as my faults.
