A shocking announcement, a request, and a note

A shocking announcement:

I do not pick up hints that are aimed at me all that well. I never have.

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A request:

If you want me to know what you are thinking or feeling, please tell me.

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A note:

Yes, there are exceptions to this. There are people whose more subtle communications manage to get across to me much of the time. Key word? Exception.

Far more common are things like its taking Betsy 6 months to get me to notice her. My lack of subtlety is based on my own communication, not based on assumptions about yours.

Elevated diialog

Person A: "You're willfully ignorant."

Person B: "You're a dickhead."

Person A: "When i said you're being "willfully ignorant" that is NOT AT INSULT. Thats how people who disagree talk to each other."

Person B: "when you talking to your wife/boss/subordinate and you disagree with them and you say "you are wilfully ignorant" what response do you think you might get?

If I said that to my wife, it might be a cold day in hell before...

in any case, I might go with 'I disgree" or I'd yes her to death.

to a subordinate, I might say, "you might want to rethink it and get back to me""

Person C: "Calling someone "willfully ignorant" is no reason for you to turn around and call that person a "dickhead."
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"Ignore" is your friend.